Make sure your advocate has your written HIPAA release and can access any part of your file at any time for any reason.
What MacInnis says is right and true. Take an hour and research tantric sexual message. The technique involves messaging our breasts exactly as is done during a breast exam; including nipple stimulation our nipples are pinched or twisted. The technique also involves messaging inside our vaginas, checking for knots, tightness, numbness, etc, our clitoris, g-spot, anterior and posterior fornix, anus… What does the gyn do?
Same with the g-spot. And anus. And as we know our labia and clitoris. Did you know that while in the stirrups you automatically engorge several times over five minutes? We especially engorge when initially touched with lubricated fingers before penetration. To resist the desire to clamp down or thrust in response.
A female doctor knows this better than any male. Notice, never have any been arrested, charged, nor convicted. Same as when a male has his genitals handled by a gay doctor. But the heterosexual setting of female patient and male doctor? You have a valid point about a doctor possibly being a lesbian. I chose a married female doctor, she has children of her own. But I get your point, well said.
So happy to hear from you. Or like me you go to great lengths to be not only neat and tidy but clean enough for your husband as well. There are doctors who deliberately seek out patients like us.
Have you read examples of that here? Have you experienced it? Or heard of it? If so, please share. We all need to learn from each other. But asymptomatic; no history? Have you seen the news stories of a doe-eyed young woman, wide eyed and flushed because you know what exam she just endured. Her doctor, not her, or her husband nor anything else, now has priority over body. An orthopedic wanted to perform a full pelvic as my pre-op physical.
My husband said no way; then later he told me about the doctor and his assistant grinning while talking about me. Was that doctor mad at hubby when he got the negative news too. And they wonder why divorces follow births. My husband needed hernia surgery. Working in the medical field, he shaved himself bare at home.
Washed with Hibiclens. At hospital, he was sedated and tied to the table as is usual. Four older, experienced female nurses came off lunch, ripped the untied gown off him, and proceeded to… One began a hand job while another held his testicles.
The other two watched. He could not see them as his eyes were covered. He could not move. While painting his abdomen with the orange goo, the nurse who had held his nuts dropped it twice. The second time it hit the floor. She joked about the 3 second rule applying. They all laughed. Before he climaxed, he flipped them off with both hands. Almost immediately he felt someone approach from behind his head.
He felt his IV line move and his arm felt cool. Then he woke up in Recovery. It took six years before he could talk about it. He said there was no way he would give them the satisfaction of seeing him spray.
He commented to me the nurse knew very, very well how to rub the right way. If not, I will explain it. Long ago we decided to made all healthcare and birth control decisions together. This has been very bonding. Written to give us power, not the hospital. This was done after how my husband was treated after one of my neck surgeries. I had been given a hypnotic.
Not be on the other side of the room nor be told to leave. Watch how the doctor behaves. Not welcome questions? Is the exam rough? Also, just to be fair. It was my husband who finally respectfully told the doctor I wanted an alternate to pap scrape. It was one of the best days of my life. You are your own perfect example why you need to self-educate and take control of your body from a medical standpoint.
Allow me to ask, are you heavy or skinny? If heavy, she cannot feel your internal sex organs no matter how she claims she can. The internal exam, in that case, is done to elicit patient reaction. Do you feel pain? Did female doc tell you that? If not, why is she pushing an exam on you that at very best is hit or miss every time? For women, this statistic is acceptable? Do you know your family history? Do you carefully follow what you eat? Do you understand and monitor your bloodwork?
Do you feel you have a satisfying sex life? Do you climax? If not, have you tried to self-educate as to why? I require Schedule II pain meds. Not one doctor told me these block sex hormones. Not my gyn. When that jerk wanted to do an endometrial biopsy, I was deliberately lied to as to how painful it would be. Then the idiot tried to talk me into a repeat. Did the doc care about me? It was my husband who rescued me. He demanded the doc provide me full informed consent.
At that point doc backed off. My husband discovered and informed me that pain meds block sex hormones. My doc? Suggested porn movies and different lubes. Did you know this? That as we age, our vaginas become lax? Even if we have C-sections instead of vaginal birth. Then comes menopause. Accompanying that is yeast trouble, collagen reabsorbtion by our bodies, our clitoris and labia disappearing, etc. Suddenly my husband could not feel anything inside my normally very tight vagina.
Might as well have consulted a Magic 8 Ball. Hubby found out for me I need to have the ThermiVa treatment. Forget trusting your doctor. Because, you never know. Also an HPV test every 5 years may soon replace the Pap smear as the way to screen for cervical cancer. There are new self administered swab or urine tests that women can do in the privacy of their own home.
I have never gone every single year for Pap smears simply because they are always normal. Most of the regular posters on this forum have done their research and made an informed decision to forego cervical cancer screening entirely. Its a very rare cancer and while few women benefit from screening, many more will be harmed from false positives that lead to further invasive procedures and surgeries. As for mammograms, while breast cancer is far more common, many of us have also studied the significant harms that can result from this screening and made an informed decision not to participate.
The urine test and the self-swabs have existed for several years. Note the , , and publication dates on the articles linked. By this reckoning, pap smears and pelvic exams should have been a thing of the past for almost 5 years. Yet, they are not. Primary HPV testing has never been a thing. HPV swabs are taken during the same exam as the PAP, effectively doubling your odds for a false positive, and grueling follow-on testing which is almost always negative, as this is a rare cancer.
In some countries, self-swabs are only offered to some women who have not been able to come in for several years, often when there is some hardship for them to come in. If you know where other self tests are, tell me. Straight people are weird. My wife has recently been to hospital to have a cystoscopy up her urethra. This is a tube that is inserted through her urethra and into her bladder so the doctor can visualize the inside of her bladder.
There were 3 male doctors in the examination room and a nurse. My wife thinks I am stupid for thinking the thoughts I do and says I have to get over it but I am waking up with these thoughts in my head. I could understand if in the examination room there was a doctor and nurses present. Sadly, sickeningly, these women also coldly declare certain procedures like the endometrial biopsy or being dilated for an IUD are just horrible things we need to accept.
That thinking is malignantly wrong. Plus, how the same doctor applies this contaminated reasoning in evaluating other areas. We have major responsibilities. Researching prior to appointments or procedures what to expect. This can be done via youtube. This is where knowledge is key.
Make sure pain management protocols are followed. Gordon, this is what we do. These suggestions apply to you and your wife. Remember, you have hired the doctor for a job.
You have the right to ask questions and to receive respectful answers in return. In medical settings, females molest as much as males do but are rarely caught and never prosecuted. Unless your wife prefers otherwise. You can, for yourself, request from your GP short-term anti-anxiety medication. Even for routine office visits. He participates in examinations. When he cannot be present, such as for procedures in the surgery suite, his own meds are especially needed.
For me, he will respectfully remind the doctor to pre-sedate me or to use extra narcotic. Does this help? Make it a priority to have a plan before leaving your front door. Make sure your wife knows she must talk to advocate for herself. You can, and make sure you do, remind the doctor if she has trouble challenging authority figures. He should in that case kindly reach out to her several times.
He should ask permission first, then if she says yes, he can touch her hand asking her to squeeze if nervous or to measure her comfort level if she cannot speak. She should do the same for you given your level of anxiety. Caring for, protecting her is your natural instinct. She should appreciate that and advocate that you get what you need too.
Both of you need to have guarantees that her pain will be managed. That alone will help you. You both should insist on that. This can make or break your marriage over time. God answered our prayers. Dismissing your normal intelligent concerns, will drive a bitter, permanent wedge between yourselves. Surely you understand how. How did your wife tolerate the procedure?
What was the final Dx? Hope this helps you. Sorry to everybody for the length. We are so grateful and appreciative for these sites.
Read the older entires. Take care of yourselves. Nobody told me to not like them. The thought just repulsed me. Why would I allow an old, or young , ugly, beer bellied , strange man sitting between my legs giving me advice on … anything! It would be like having a father or uncle or grandfather! How many times has he been in her position.
Maybe all doctors are detached and aloof. Why did there have to be three doctors in the room for a fairly simple procedure? For a teaching hospital patients are supposed to be asked and give permission for student doctors to look on. But the way they word it and the nurse in pre-op often make it seem you have no choice or you will not get good care if you refuse. It can certainly help to have someone with you for these procedures, so they can support you generally and speak up if your wishes are being ignored.
When the day arrived about 3 weeks later, she found the female anesthetist had swapped the shift with a male.
I think they know when most people find themselves in this situation, they just accept it. So it was a Q of making a fuss, re-scheduling the procedure or just going ahead, she felt pressured to do the latter. I am honestly so surprised by the reactions of the people in this forum. It must be an American trait to be so neurotic about your bodies because in Europe and to a lesser extent in Australia people there do not make such big fuss once they start to mature.
A male doctor diagnosed me with pelvic inflammatory disease. The surgeons initially thought I had appendicitis but the emergency doctor performed a vaginal exam and realised that my cervix was extremely tender.
Instead of having a laparatomy, which was the initial plan, they decided to put me on IV antibiotics and wait for a pelvic ultrasound, which confirmed the diagnosis. I didnt have any concerns discussing my sexual history with a male doctor, i am not a shy 13 year old girl but a mature 24 year old with 2 children. So the immaturity in this forum is embarrassing, if you were giggly teenagers, I could understand your reaction but the majority of you are well past that. The majority of women who post on this site are sick to their back teeth with sanctimonious finger wagging.
If you are fine with male doctors, screening and pelvic exams then good for you. Appendicitis can be treated with antibiotics as effectively as with surgery but without all the complications and side effects of the surgery.
I suppose I should not be a naughty teenage girl and ask the good doctor all these stupid questions, like what are the risks of this procedure? Thank you for bringing facts to the table.
Elizabeth Aust always has great facts that makes everybody stop and think. If we truly can. You must still chase it down though. Because every jerk down wind at the hospital will try to set it aside.
Take names of those supervisors who say it will be done. Be prepared to cancel the procedure. Just because you request a woman though does not mean all is well. She molested every male she operated on. And the all-female staff did nothing about it. My husband had an all-female staff prep him for hernia surgery. The hand job he received, and stopped them just before Old Faithful geyser blew off its steam, is an example of good girls gone very bad.
A mixed crew is what you want. LIne up and practice pelvic exams? A teaching hospital is NOT a good place for procedures. When your advocates eyes are locked far away, these docs with your parts will play. The educational system does not bring us the best. It filters up the delusional intellects who believe their god image, combined with student debt, gives them above the law rights.
This results in doctors who behave like assholes, not caring about our pain nor kids, not anything but themselves. Keep in mind… For many years, women had no choice of doctor, some perhaps, many women were traumatized by the treatment they received, especially, unnecessary breast and pelvic exams, pap-tests-by-coercion and during childbirth.
Also, making a complaint was very difficult in the s and earlier so there was no closure for these women. Many women have kept upsetting past medical experiences to themselves or carry trauma. Study after study shows the majority of women prefer female doctors for vaginal and breast exams.
So many women were forced to accept male doctors, this can have a negative effect. Times have changed, we have more female doctors, women are more informed, more are prepared to request the care they prefer and to stand firm — if women want to see a female doctor or men see a male doctor etc. It also comes down to the old comfort factor — just as some men request male doctors, some women prefer female doctors. Every life journey is unique, your experiences will not be my experiences etc.
Thank god someone said it. Hope you read this before your exam. Make sure you take an advocate with you. Your comfort and safety is. And the fact that it will be much more difficult for any doc to take a picture of your genitals with your advocate staring therein. My husband has caught two doctors in the act. My husband had this guy sized up from the first day we met him.
What he may feel is swelling in the area or your pain response as he pokes. He will feel your cervix and the first inch of your uterus. They should be doing an ultrasound on you first and foremost. Most likely transvaginal. Make sure your husband is there for that too. The tech will most likely be very rude and insist he wait outside.
Stand your ground. Demand he goes in. Protect yourself. My husband goes everywhere I go and same with me for him. An advocate is your witness. Wonderfully said and exactly what I thought! I am also a 30 year old Australian and have been to a male and female Gyno and found the male to be more professional and courteous! I would laugh at a man trying to guide me through cramps, birth, menopause. At 56, I have a great body.
I love it actually. It will be with a good looking, sexy, witty, lover. My cardiologist and orthopedic drs are men. In their late forties, handsome, well educated and trained. The parts they deal with are neutral and common to both sexes. Tired of people assuming we are prudish, neurotic or ashamed. Like anything else in life. This is the worst article I have ever read regarding facts this study is not one of a medical setting its you judging people on there looks … I assume you learned all there is to know about paps and pelvic exams in medical school but the real world is different than medical school.
Hi Rebecca. I agree with Chrissy Evie and Elizabeth. For years we had medics telling us how we should feel about these tests and downplaying our concerns. But it annoys me even more when we get more of the same from other women!! I went into it for the miracle of giving birth … that never gets old. Instead, I chose half the human race.
Plus, I like women better than men. I gravitate to female conversation. The only caveat is I have no style. They say men are more sensitive on average, more responsive to their concerns.
Like, tell us your period is heavy and we feel awful about it! I need it to be more like a washer. So take her home and go at it.
So they scheduled me that day with a traveling doc Well my husband came with me, and the doc did his exam and said we were going to do an ultrasound because he thought the cyst ruptured. You banged her too hard. Good job, buddy! My husband still feels bad! I had a piece of toilet paper stuck you know where!!! I have no idea how because I always cleaned with a baby wipe before my procedure. I must have missed it apparently! Well jackass hubby saw it and never said anything to me, even when the nurse had her back turned!
He started laughing after she left the room then told me! That was so embarrassing. I wanted to kill him! Now I can laugh about it. It was the first I had heard of it, but it's better than the alternative I guess! Pretty sure my response was something along the lines of 'oh..
During one of my annuals, the Dr was an intern and had trouble getting the spectrum in me. As soon as I heard the "click" it fell on the floor!!! I was horrified and will always remember the sweat beads on his forehead! I'm probably in the minority but I don't want a doctor with a sense of humor. I want a cold, clinical nerd who's going to stick to the facts. Never again! From The Web Ads by Revcontent. I have only been to a women gynecologist and I have never let her touch me like that.
I don't trust doctors. I took my birth control and ran. I wouldn't feel comfortable going to a male gynecologist.
Spontaneous erections are a fact of male life. It doesn't mean a doctor is perving or being a creep most ladies get this. I would never go to a male for this. Good, at last a woman with sense. Cromartie Xper 3. Tabra opinions shared on Sexual Health topic. Xper 7. Related myTakes. I'm done with intelligence. How to use rejection to your advantage - Bible Talk. A sign you should not ignore when praying for your husband or wife.
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